Some family issues, don't know how to deal. (Long)?

I just need to vent somewhere. Before I start, I'm 18 and about to start college in the fall. Sorry if this gets long....and thank you very much from the bottom of my heart if you read this all. So I have a weird family. I'll start with the brother (only sibiling). He's the most relatable (4 years older than me) and most sane. He goes to college, comes home once in a while. Nothing wrong with him other than I'm a bit overweight and he's like a body builder so it's a bit intimidating (I'm working on the weight, don't worry). My mom, is weird. She has all these issues with her back and blood pressure and stuff that she takes all this medication and it makes her forget things easily and makes her not speak correctly due to whatever the drugs do. It also gives her a weird appitite where she won't eat anything for hours or she will start eating and it's nothing really but cottage cheese or eggs. Not real meals and full amounts of food. She also has to deal with my father. Now, my dad is the one I am sad for the most I guess. I don't ever see him watch movies, read books, or even have friends. He has no friends where we live cause he never got around to meeting neighboors when we moved here. He listens to music, but only people like Josh Groban for some reason. He wakes up early as heck, like 5 am or so, goes to nyc to work, comes home mostly at around 7-8pm, changes, eats dinner, mostly chinese cause my mom can't cook, go uses the computer in our basement for work, and then goes to bed. That's how it's been for a while now and on the weekends I don't spend time with him and I don't know what to do because I feel like he won't have anyone once I finally leave the house cause I think my parents might get a divorce in the future and I don't want that. Now, this is the hard part. I know he might be seeing some else on the side. I've heard him on the phone in passing and have actually heard a feint womens voice on the other line. He also goes to work on the weekends which I think he takes the car to wherever he goes. He also went to Florida to see his mom and I think he took her with him. The thing is, I can't prove or disprove any of this about another women but I don't know what to do. He seems happy when he talks to her, I think.... I mean, both my mom and dad have talked about a divorce and stuff and if they do divorce, I don't wanna ruin what could, not hoping, be someone my dad is with after my mom. I know this is long, sorry. With me, though, I am in the middle of this. with my brother at college, I'm left alone at home to deal with a mother who can barely drive, forgets things easily and rarely leaves a house (but that's the worst of it) and a father who might be cheating on my mom, who I think is depressed and I feel really sad for. I feel the worst though. I have to do most of the stuff around the house, dishes, garbage, laundry sometimes, and almost every errand that's outside of the house, because of my mom. I hate how my dad could be seriously depressed and I don't know what to do. I am also not doing so well. I'm a bit overweight which has made me really shy and I've never had a girlfriend or even a fricking date and I'm already 18! >.< I just don't really know what to do or what will happen once I leave for college. I don't want my mom and dad to fall apart and I want more for my dad. He does so much for everyone in the family but gets nothing out of it. He doesn't own material value items or anything like that so it's even hard to thing of stuff for him. I don't know....Sorry about the long rant....I kinda just had a lot on my chest and I've never told anyone any of this so I hope it goes somewhere. I just kinda cry a bit when I think about how depressed my parents might be, living in a relationship where they don't get along like they used to, where my mom has to try to get my dad's attention, and more...... If I had to leave this with a question, I guess it would be, "How do I deal with this, what do I do, and how do I go with dealing with all of these issues myself?" Thank you very much for you kind words. See, talking about serious stuff in my family doesn't happen. I've never seen it unless it's some family member who's passed on. Also, my mom's doctor, is also one of her best friends, and is even letting her use his office for her psychology practice, whenever she gets that up and going. I also do cry a bit about this stuff. I mean, it's their one and only lives and they have uncompleted dreams and hopes and stuff. I don't know how I got to that thinking but everything I think about that stuff, the waterworks start.

First off I am sorry to hear about what you are going through. But your parents are adults and they are going to do what they are going to do regardless of what you do. Don't take the responsiblity on yourself to "save" them. Talk to your brother or other extended family about your concerns. Go to college and check in to ease your mind. But don't feel responsible.

listen.. it seems like your going threw alot (and yes i read ALL of it) i would say comfront your dad about this other girl, but if it makes him happy just let them get a divorce.. your mom don't need him anyway she gots you! i'm pretty sure your a really good guy, and for college there is tons of chicks there ;}. just think some where on this earth right now your true love is walking around. have faith also <3 God is always there for you no matter what! about your mom, try talking to the doctor about switching medicanes and tell him the effects. maybe put her in a retirment home for a little while so you can go to college and stuff. im sure she will get better and stuff (:. and for losing weight im sure your only gaining it because you have ALOT on your shoulders right now. trust relax, calm down, and read the bible. (: <3. i hope everything goes well for you in the future and your true love comes soon! god bless <3

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