Is there hope for our marriage?

Everyone is gonna think this is small but not to me We of course have other issues. Two times this yr and tonight being one of them my husband called me ugly. We have been married 6 yrs both times he was mad. This upsets me bcuz I think he really feels this way Especially since lately the past 2 or 3 times he has been loosing his erections in bed He has to wake me up later or keep retrying till he performs for his ego. But im ok I tell him just leave me alone because I know he is trying to proove to himself. Anyways this hurts me bad because i have many other stresses I have had colon surgery I get 3 day migranes twice a month I work a rotating schedule I have had vaginal prolapse twice. Im have a 5 and a 10 yr old I struggle to take care of Im tired a lot I told him with my health issues my life is depressing enough I dont need him calling me names. Plus i think one of every womens basic needs is to feel desired by their husband and affection. Additional facts Im 33 he's 38 Please help with your thoughts and advice

Its hard to tell. That's horrible that he says that and everyone says cruel things when they are mad and not because they really feel that way but because they know its an insecurity. The erection thing can be dozens of different things, diet, stress, medication, anxiety and more. Try counseling. I'm interested in what good things he does though. There is always more negative than what people actually say. You can also private msg me.

sounds like you need find a new guy who treats you right! but on a serious note try to talk it over with him. and as for the erection thing, he may have Erectile dysfunction and just says your ugly because he doesn't want to admit it.

Yes there is hope. You didn't state if you told him how you felt about him calling you ugly? So I'm gonna tell you like this........ Suck it up, I mean really if he calls you ugly, call him a name! and if you don't want to stoop that low :) COMMUNICATE! For any relationship to work, one of the pillars of a successful relationship is communication. Tell Him how you feel when he calls you that. Sit down and just open up...

Oh hell, just call him Limpdick and tell him you're not lying about that!

Men who need to call women names are immature. My husband who certainly should know better calls me names too, and I know it hurts, but they seem to thrive on this. It boosts their ego. Tell him as clear as U can that it hurts your feelings. Also do not have sex with him if U feel bad physically. Make sure he is not hurting U, When he can not preform tell him U still love him. Have him get a physical and check for diabetes. That can slow sex down sometimes.

I feel sorry for you, as you married an A hole.

Irrespective of everything else he has no right to call you or anybody else any name. Perhaps you should try calling him ugly one time and see how he reacts. I think that you must be assertive but not aggressive and tell him not to dare call you or anybody else any name or make derogatory comments. once they leave his lips he can never take the words back.

There is hope if 1. He gets individual counseling. 2. You get individual counseling. (DO NOT try couples counseling) 3. He must work on changing. 4. You must know that what he is saying is not true and that you deserve to be respected. NOBODY should be talked to like that. I would also suspect that perhaps some of your health issues may be due to stress from him and the way he treats you. Read the book that I have listed as a source. It will open your eyes.

I don't see where you have done anything wrong. Clearly you have health problems on top of all your responsible, it is not too much for you to ask him to be more sensitive. He shouldn't be saying hurtful things anyway, regardless of your health problems. If he cannot respect you enough to change his attitude, then you need to think about making changes in your life.

re: Im have a 5 and a 10 yr old >> the unhappiness between their parents (you) is KILLING THEM! Do whatever it takes (counseling) to make sure your kids are NOT DAMAGED by miserable, angry, offensive, abusive, MEAN parental role modeling.

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